Tuesday, January 26, 2021

Family Link

Who Will Say Kaddish for Leon?

Throughout the decades of my genealogy research, there have been a few cousins with exceptionally common names (think Cohen, Friedman…), making them more of a challenge to find. With the family name Schneider, Leon was one of them. What turned out to be both fortunate and fruitful was finding Leon when I did. By the time I


Caring or Codependency?

What is codependency?

It may be a term you’ve heard thrown around before, but if you are confused as to what it actually means, that may be because the definition of codependency has evolved over time. The term codependency was first coined in the 1970s and referred to a person’s penchant to


An Introduction to ‘Seven Steps to Mentschhood’

The story is told of the late Dr. Judah Folkman, who several years ago discovered promising anti-cancer therapies. Asked what motivated him to become a research physician, he explained that starting at the age of 7 he accompanied his father, a rabbi in Columbus, Ohio, on hospital visits to see patients. It was those visits that


How Big and Small Mitzvot Guide Us on a Path to Teshuva

This week’s parsha, known as Tzav, begins as follows: “And the Lord spoke to Moshe, saying, ‘Tzav! Command Aaron and his sons.’”

Immediately, the usual formula is disrupted. Usually when God speaks to Moshe, He says, “Say to Aaron,” or “Say to the people,” not “Command


Parenting and Learning to Grandparent in 2019

As I flew through the air reading parenting advice from articles in a recent issue of The Jewish Link of New Jersey, my thoughts were consumed with my next trip across the country with my husband. Our son and “daughter-by-marriage” are preparing for the birth of their first child, our first grandchild, making the Link’s pieces so


Why Are Ultra-Orthodox Jews Panicking Over the Shidduch Crisis?

We hear a lot about the shidduch crisis and who is and is not responsible. Are the so-called marriage mentors, dating mentors and, yes, even some rabbis part of the solution or part of the problem? I’m not sure, but I believe they certainly do not contribute to an easier and more natural dating process.


The Challenge of Raising a Mentsch

There is a story told of four elderly women sitting on a hotel patio:

Woman #1: “Oy”

#2: “Oy Vey!”

#3: “Oy vey iz mir!”

#4: “I thought we had agreed not to talk about the


The Comparison Trap

“Comparison is the death of joy”

 - Mark Twain 

“I don’t know how her house is so clean when we both work full time. My house is constantly messy.”

“How did he manage


The Dental Insurance That Actually Works

The word on the street is that many believe dental insurance is a waste of money and time. People have this conception that dental insurance is not worth it because it pays out very little and most dentist don’t accept it. But this is a huge misconception! We get calls from our existing dental clients about how its forces them to


Ki Tisa: A Guide for Teshuva

Note: We thank Rabbi Igael Gurin-Malous for this month’s article.

Who among us has not sinned? Who among us has not done something that truly requires forgiveness and repentance? Very few, if any…

“How do we move forward from our shame and guilt and


‘She Threw His Purse Into the River:’ Honoring a Parent With Dementia

The imperatives to honor and revere parents are truly weighty positive commandments. They are demanding even when ageing parents have clear minds and are essentially healthy. These precepts are even more challenging if a parent suffers a physical disability or dementia. It is not for naught that the third century amora, Rabbi


Parents Tell Their Story

Our thanks to Joyce and Marty Litchman for sharing their story with us.  We’re sure this will resonate with some of you out there.

I am the parent of a recovering drug addict. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. It began innocently. When my son, Ben, was 8 years old, he was diagnosed with