Thursday, July 09, 2020

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From Swimming Pools To Classroom Rules

I received a note from my nine-year-old son in sleep away camp this summer, which read as follows, “Dear Imma, I caught two turtles and a snake but don’t worry, I washed my hands. Please buy me Berry Captain Crunch. Love, AJ.”

As I read this letter, I relished in parental glee, thrilled that my son was enjoying the great outdoors and having fun as a


Raising Your “Sensory Child”

Raising a child in today’s world has many challenges. Issues such as tantrums, sibling rivalry, childhood illnesses, technology, peer pressure, and others are matters that all parents have to deal with from time to time. Many parents have the good fortune of having family members, friends or even professionals to turn to when they have questions about parenting or


My Child is Not Motivated, YIKES!!!!

Reuven, a 6th grader, is assigned a school project. He comes home and tells his mother about the project:

Reuven: “Today, I received a very hard English project. My teacher said that it is due on Monday! I really don’t think that I will be able to do it.”

Mother: “Reuven, of course you can do it! This is very similar to the assignment


The Magic of “No”

Any reader who has attended one of my parenting workshops will be surprised to hear me touting the word no. My usual mantra, after all, is “never say ‘no’ when you can say ‘yes’.” I still maintain this “golden rule” because I find that many parents say no automatically and give a negative answer inasmuch as, usually, that’s the


When I Grow Up

I went through many phases of “what I wanted to be when I grow up.” Loved dogs, so thought I wanted to be a veterinarian. Don’t love math and science, so I realized that dream was shattered. Loved drawing(I can draw a seriously mean bowl of fruit courtesy of art class at the Fair Lawn High School summer program), but had no aspirations of being Manet, so


Pet Peeve

I am not a big fan of animals. I don’t really have the time to dedicate to grooming, cleaning, buying supplies, or feeding them, and I definitely don’t like that they’re a breeding ground for germs. But my daughter desperately wants a pet, much to my dismay. She has been petitioning for one for several months now, and I made the mistake of offering to get her any


Dirshu Publishes 6th Volume of Mishna Berurah

“It is the best Yom Tov gift that I could have gotten!” That is the way one prominent talmid chacham expressed his joy at the release of Chelek Vav of the Dirshu Mishna Berurah. Indeed, the release of the new Chelek Vav of the Dirshu Mishna Berurah in the summer, before the onset of Rosh Chodesh


I Don’t Like My Kids’ Friends

Consider the following exchange between Jack and his mother:

Jack:I would really like to go to Brian’s house for a sleepover. A few other kids in the class will be going as well.

Mother: Well, I don’t really like Brian so much! I don’t like it when you guys are together!

Jack: Why, what are you talking about? He is a really good friend of


Guilty For Punishing

Dear Rabbi Sam,

I am a single mom with two teenage sons, ages 15 and 18.  My problem is that my oldest son who only recently received his driver’s license, came home late, beyond our agreed upon curfew, two days in a row.

There is always an excuse why he didn’t get home on time, but he doesn’t take responsibility for


The Ins and Outs of Bicycle Riding

Summer is a great opportunity for parents and children to spend time together without having to worry about completing homework.  This time can be spent teaching your child to ride a bicycle.  Once learned, it is a skill that is never forgotten.  In the past, a parent would hold the bike while the child tried to learn to balance and pedal simultaneously. 



I did not go to sleep away camp. Well, truthfully, my parents sent me once. It was the summer after eighth grade, when apparently girls are at their very meanest, and I went to Camp Hillel (of blessed memory) for the second month.

In the olden days, camp wasn’t like it is now. You either went the first month or the whole summer, not just the second month.


Bad Parent vs. Good Parent; Who Are We To Judge?

In the early stages of my parenting, when my first child was a young baby, I recall waiting in the pediatrician’s office in our former community.  I was feeling quite smug about my decision to breastfeed, and even smugger about the choices that I’d made that I considered healthy and wholesome. My baby was only allowed to eat whole-grain snacks, and I made sure to