Friday, December 03, 2021

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Marriage and the Holidays

I have given much thought to this piece. Some of you might not like it. Some of you might not understand it. But, I felt that it had to be written. What I have come to learn over the past 18 years of marriage is that the High Holiday season sometimes does not seem too high and feels like it lasts way longer than any season. I think it is because we all believe, deep,


Back to School Battles. And Supplies. 

I enjoy shopping, but only when it’s done alone. Add someone else to the mix, and the level of fun decreases by 30 percent. Add some kids, and you have a recipe for a form of punishment.

And so, when my kids happily pawed through the circulars that boasted school supplies at ridiculously discounted prices, they begged to be allowed to come along on this


Bully Bully

In writing this article about “bullying,” I remembered—or thought I remembered—the title to a song, “Bully, Bully.” In checking it on Google, I discovered the song was “Woolly Bully,” just another song whose lyrics, though I enjoyed the song very much, I got it wrong! And while my singing the wrong lyrics to a song is most amusing to those who hear me,


Backpacks and Back Pain

A backpack is probably the most important school supply you can buy for your child. Your children will transport schoolwork, homework, snacks, lunch and toys that are important to themin their backpacks, often overstuffing them. Many of these items need to be carried on a daily basis and can cause a heavy load for the child, with recent literature supporting a


Genuine Encounter Moments

How many minutes per day do children communicate with their parents? According to a survey by The National Family Institute in 2002, the average child in America receives only 12.5 minutes per day in communication with his/her parents. Of that time, 8.5 minutes are spent with parents in correcting behavior, criticizing behavior, or engaged in various arguments. This


Bar Mitzvah

If you are reading this, it means that I am still alive; that I have survived the bar mitzvah of my youngest child, my third son, my baby—though it could also mean that the warden at the institution allowed me to express my final ranting, ravings and incoherent ramblings before they hooked me up to the electroshock therapy machine. In any case, if you are still


Is Rosh Hashanah a Children’s Holiday?

In many ways, Judaism is a child-friendly religion.Consider the holidays. Chanukah has presents, donuts and chocolate coins. Purim has costumes and hamantaschen. Pesach has the four questions, ten plagues, and the rest of the grandeur of the seder. Shavuot has cheese cake and ice cream. Sukkot has the lulav, etrog, and the opportunity to camp out


Raising Your “Sensory Child”

One of the many struggles we parents face is determining how to set clear boundaries for our children and still allow them space to make their own choices. When do I put my foot down with my child and when do I ease up and give them freedom to do what they want?

Now imagine the child you are raising is a child that is constantly trying to control all of his/her


Dear Rabbi Sam


Dear Rabbi Sam,

My husband and I are very community minded, socially active and very passionate about our political views. We often have open discussions in front of our children about important issues and many times we do not share the same views. This past Shabbos, in the presence of our 8-year-old son, we had a rather “heated”


Positioning Your Baby

It has been nine months since Hurricane Sandy and there has been a significant increase in births. The media are attributing it to the power outages and inability to resume normal life during Hurricane Sandy. Whatever the reason may be, lots of babies are expected to be born this summer.

In preparation for a new baby, parents often go out and


Bright Beginnings: Partnering With Your Child For Academic Success

As the school year begins, parents are often confronted with mixed emotions. The excitement and optimism of new beginnings can at times be challenged by the many questions and uncertainties that surround the academic experience. Some questions may include:

How will my child deal with new academic surroundings?

How do I know that my child will be happy


Study Shmuddy

The Mayo Clinic just came out with a study that drinking more than 4-6 cups of coffee a day could shorten the length of your life. Now, I do not know the specifics of this study, just what my friends on Good Day New York were telling me. People under the age of 55 should not drink so much coffee. They could die. From nothing specific, but it’s not good.  I think

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