Sunday, September 27, 2020

Family Link

Nesting Goes Beyond Pregnancy

During a casual Sunday conversation with our son—on an east coast evening by us, which was only midday out on the west coast by him—I inquired about what he and his seven-months-pregnant wife were doing that day. “Hold on,” he requested as he asked, “What’s that word again?” “Nesting,” he soon replied.


Benjamin’s Story

This month’s article is written by Benjamin Litchman.

Who would’ve thought? A nice Jewish boy caught up in the throes of addiction. Unheard of. When my teachers asked in Hebrew school what we planned to be when we grew up, I never imagined I would be struggling with a heroin addiction. When


Seven Steps to Mentschhood

Step # 1 ואהבת לרעך כמוך

Love your fellow person as yourself. (Vayikra 19:18)

When I begin teaching my students the first of the “Seven Steps to Mentschhood,” I tell the following true story:


Valley Chabad Friendship Circle Teens Distribute 200 Teddy Bears to Veterans

(Courtesy of Valley Chabad) On Sunday, March 10, Valley Chabad’s Friendship Circle spent a day of giving at the Veterans Home in Paramus. Over 50 children and teen volunteers came to the Veterans Home in Paramus to bring smiles to the veterans there.

The children and teens


Paint With Me! Comes to Congregation Beth Sholom

Congregation Beth Shalom of Teaneck held a fun Motzei Shabbat Paint With Me! event. Congregation Beth Shalom members met their inner artist and all ages enjoyed a fun evening.


Who Will Say Kaddish for Leon?

Throughout the decades of my genealogy research, there have been a few cousins with exceptionally common names (think Cohen, Friedman…), making them more of a challenge to find. With the family name Schneider, Leon was one of them. What turned out to be both fortunate and fruitful was finding Leon when I did. By the time I


Caring or Codependency?

What is codependency?

It may be a term you’ve heard thrown around before, but if you are confused as to what it actually means, that may be because the definition of codependency has evolved over time. The term codependency was first coined in the 1970s and referred to a person’s penchant to


An Introduction to ‘Seven Steps to Mentschhood’

The story is told of the late Dr. Judah Folkman, who several years ago discovered promising anti-cancer therapies. Asked what motivated him to become a research physician, he explained that starting at the age of 7 he accompanied his father, a rabbi in Columbus, Ohio, on hospital visits to see patients. It was those visits that


How Big and Small Mitzvot Guide Us on a Path to Teshuva

This week’s parsha, known as Tzav, begins as follows: “And the Lord spoke to Moshe, saying, ‘Tzav! Command Aaron and his sons.’”

Immediately, the usual formula is disrupted. Usually when God speaks to Moshe, He says, “Say to Aaron,” or “Say to the people,” not “Command


Parenting and Learning to Grandparent in 2019

As I flew through the air reading parenting advice from articles in a recent issue of The Jewish Link of New Jersey, my thoughts were consumed with my next trip across the country with my husband. Our son and “daughter-by-marriage” are preparing for the birth of their first child, our first grandchild, making the Link’s pieces so


Why Are Ultra-Orthodox Jews Panicking Over the Shidduch Crisis?

We hear a lot about the shidduch crisis and who is and is not responsible. Are the so-called marriage mentors, dating mentors and, yes, even some rabbis part of the solution or part of the problem? I’m not sure, but I believe they certainly do not contribute to an easier and more natural dating process.


The Challenge of Raising a Mentsch

There is a story told of four elderly women sitting on a hotel patio:

Woman #1: “Oy”

#2: “Oy Vey!”

#3: “Oy vey iz mir!”

#4: “I thought we had agreed not to talk about the