Saturday, June 06, 2020

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Surviving a Play Date

Dear Therapists,

I remember as a child spending hours playing with my friends either at their houses or at my house. Every time I try to arrange a play date for my son, it turns into a disaster. My son either spends most of the time protecting his toys or he becomes aggressive. Having Shabbos


Write on, Juliet!

The Torah specifically instructs us to “honor the elderly” (Leviticus 19:32): “…every old person is regarded as having a special wisdom that comes with life experience” (Aish.com).

My cousin Juliet celebrated her 105th birthday last month


To Zev’s HASC Counselors

(Editor’s Note: The letter below was written last week by Dena Kinderlehrer, the wife of JLNJ Co-Publisher and Founder Moshe Kinderlehrer. It was presented to the counselors last Friday before HASC ended and we have decided to reprint it here. The Kinderlehrers have a 17-year-old son, Zev, who has attended HASC for the past six


Separation Anxiety and Back-to-School: Why You Should Do Something About It

I never gave separation anxiety that much thought until I dropped off my young son for the first time at preschool many years ago. The school had mentioned it at parent orientation and there was a handout about separation anxiety included with a lot of other information in the big packet that I took home. It didn’t seem like it


My Cousin Philip, a Vietnam Vet and the Power of Prayer

This story is an ongoing email correspondence beginning with my cousin Philip’s comments to me about a Vietnam veteran whom I knew many years ago.

Cousin David,

After I read what you wrote here about that vet, I can see you were a true friend to that soldier, giving


When the Community Becomes Extended Family

Before Hadassa Bogomilsky headed off to camp in Montreal, we spent a fun-filled afternoon together. The 13-year-old daughter of my rabbi from the Maplewood Jewish Center-Congregation Beth Ephraim had just finished her school year and I had just sent off one of my family newsletters. We were both in the mood to celebrate.


Summer Vacation Tips From a Travel-Weary Mom

Vacation season is upon us and I’ve learned one major truth as a parent: When your children are happy and enjoying themselves, you will be happy and enjoy yourself. This is true whether you travel by car, plane, bus or boat, or visit the seashore, mountains, Israel or anywhere else.

It is tempting to


The Centrality of Teshuva

This month’s article was written by Rabbi Igael Gurin-Malous, director of spiritual counseling at Beit T’shuvah and the executive director of the new T’shuvah Center in NYC.

Pain. Loss. Grief. Fear. Longing. Heartache. Sadness. These are the experiences of life, and every person must


Visiting Day: Friend or Foe?

The lazy, hazy days of summer are finally here. You are beginning to actually relax and recuperate from last week’s frenzy of shopping, labeling and packing off the bigger kids to camp. You have the bus schedules for day camp down pat, and a new summer routine has developed. Your fourth grader has surprisingly shown how much she is


You Can Relax

I shove a banana into his knapsack as I rush my son out the door.

“You’ll eat in the car. It’s time to go! We are going to be late!” My words tumble out as I race to the car.

It’s Monday morning and the week is off to a stressful start.


Jewish Values: A Path to Conscious Uncoupling

A marriage that ends in divorce, which causes even the altar in the Holy Temple to shed tears (Gittin 90b), is an unfortunate and disruptive event not only for the individuals involved, but also for their friends, families and community. Still, if divorce is the inescapable route that a couple must take, the Torah recognizes this


Sharing Your Story Can Save a Life

My cousin Judy Krasna is an amazing woman. Her 20-something daughter has been suffering from a debilitating eating disorder for many years now. In addition to helping her daughter receive the best medical and psychological help she can get, Judy has a blog on parenting a child with an eating disorder. Many of us, when faced with