Hi Shayna B,

First of all I love reading your advice column and I think it’s helpful to lots of people. My problem is that in school I have two best friends, and I always feel excluded. They always share secrets and FaceTime each other without me. They go places without me and don’t usually include me in their conversations at lunch. I don’t think I should switch friend groups because I see them as my closest friends and I don’t know what group I would join. I don’t know what to do about it. Any way you can help?

Sincerely,

Third-Wheeling Talia

Dear Third-Wheeling Talia,

Talk to them. Make it clear that you don’t want to be the third wheel. Tell them that if they call you a friend they have to act like you are their friend. If they don’t want you, you can switch friend groups. You are allowed to move friend groups.

Let me tell you a true story: Once my siblings and I were walking and we found an injured bird. We were so excited when we asked our dad if we could bring it home and care for it, and he said yes. After a day of taking care of it, l found out it left. I was upset, but who knows, the bird might just come back one day. The same thing with your friends is apparently happening. You shouldn’t be upset thinking your friends flew away from you. Think positively: You had a good relationship with your friends, and now it’s time for you too to spread your wings.

Best of luck,

Shayna B.

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Shayna is a fourth grader and understands what kids in elementary school are going through. She is happy to help others navigate this tricky time. She can be reached at [email protected]. She is looking forward to hearing from you soon.