Although I do not consider myself a dating expert, I am a recovering single, having found my husband four years ago, after being a divorced, single mom for 11 years.
I was surprised when I read Yitzchak
Kornbluth’s letter to the editor last week, “Advice for Shadchanim” (March 4, 2021) and while reading it, I kept asking myself, “huh?” Yitzchak suggests that shadchanim legitimize every suggestion they send in order to help increase the rate of successful matches.

In my opinion, this misses the point of Ahuva’s original article entirely. When I was dating, I personally welcomed any and all matches, regardless of who was suggesting them. I was grateful that people were taking the time to keep me in mind. I would also take the time to explain why I was rejecting a match. Most shadchanim I previously came across did not charge for their time or their suggestions. Although it is not publicized, “Saw You At Sinai” does not even pay shadchanim at all.

Although there are several articles that mention our “shidduch crisis,” Hashem is in charge of when/or if people will find their partner. We can do everything we can to focus on ourselves, our own growth, both spiritually and emotionally. There is a lot to be said about dating and singlehood and I would love to write more on this topic in the future.