Teaneck—For nearly 12 years something wonderful has been taking place on various floors in Hackensack University Medical Center, and in more recent years, Montefiore Medical Center in the Bronx—as well as in other children’s hospitals or homes as far away as Australia. In rooms of children and young adults with chronic or life-threatening illnesses, just when they need it the most, decorations appear on walls, nightstands, or beds in their favorite colors and themes. Or, a basket awaits their arrival for a transplant or before a difficult procedure, in which they find items specifically tailored to their individual passions, wishes, or needs. The decorations and the baskets may be brought into the patient’s rooms by the social worker or child life specialist, but the angel in the wings making all of this happen is Teaneck resident Alona Shapiro.
When her son Eitan died in 2002, Shapiro founded Eitan’s Hope for Children. She wanted to be able to provide children and young adults with life-threatening illnesses the opportunity to smile and face their difficult journey the way Eitan was able to do—with dignity, courage, and faith.
Eitan was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 15. It was one of the most aggressive of non-Hodgkin’s lymphomas. In conjunction with traditional Western medicine, used to delay the growth of the tumor, Eitan underwent a significant regimen of integrative medicine, namely energy healing and nutritional counseling. Shapiro believes the mind-body connection is key to the healing process and is convinced it extended Eitan’s life by nearly three years.
As a result, one of the goals of Eitan’s Hope for Children is to educate people about the value of integrative medicine and to offer financial assistance for specific integrative medical treatments.
In past years, the fund offered a variety of other services to help ease the suffering of patients and their families, including offering essential items for families in the ICU with no support; supplies for bereavement carts; musical instruments and art supplies for creative arts and musical therapy programs; aromatherapy items and Mother’s Day and Father’s Day gifts for parents of ill in-house patients.
Its signature project has always been a Basketful of Smiles. Tailored to each patient, these baskets, filled with items that encourage the mind-body connection, are a result of research done via consultations with social workers and child life specialists. Shapiro created a form to fill out that helps her get to know the patients. “I want to know all about them because it helps me tune into the kids,” says Shapiro. The common denominator in the baskets is that all items will make the child or young adult happy. And this helps the healing process since that is how the mind-body connection works.
“Each basket is a magnet for healing,” explains Shapiro. “It softens the blows on the newly diagnosed, distracts young ones from fears and painful procedures, and motivates teens to fight the disease harder and young adults to continue setting goals and reestablish their identities. As their dreams and wishes are fulfilled, the joy and happiness becomes contagious!”
According to Shapiro, “We concentrate on teenagers and young adults. I wanted to make Eitan as comfortable as possible, and I don’t want other teens to feel like they’re losing their identities and becoming statistics. Often, these young adults are ignored and forgotten when it comes to providing them with entertainment or bringing them gifts. They’re not kids, though they’re not quite adults either.”
Shapiro reflects, “I know if Eitan were alive today that we’d be partnering on this mission. His understanding of the value of integrative medicine, nutritional counseling, a positive attitude, and his love for humanity—especially the young—made this mission a ‘no brainer.’ Eitan was aware of how different he felt before and after his energy healings and the effects herbs and supplements had on his body. He beamed when physicians told him they had never seen such a strong heart in a cancer patient or such bravery.
“For me, this mission combines everything I’ve done my whole life from love of working with children to the creative projects to love of medicine and especially integrative modes. Seeing the difference it all makes in one life is as incredible as it is an eye opener. Each spirit is literally transformed even before a basket is opened. It tells me I must continue on with this mission.”
In commemoration of Eitan’s upcoming yahrzeit on Rosh Chodesh Elul, please consider making a donation. Checks can be made out to Eitan’s Hope for Children and sent to: Eitan’s Hope for Children, 39 Monterey Ave., Teaneck, NJ 07666 or donations can be made online at http://eitanshopeforchildren.org/general-donation. html. Eitan’s Hope for Children is a 501(c) (3) nonprofit organization.
By Sara Kosowsky Gross