It is well-known that the world of Brisk was one of meticulous observance of mitzvos. It is also well known that Rav Refoel Soloveitchik was the right-hand man of his saintly father, the Brisker Rav.
A story is told by Rabbi Avrohom Chaim Brim (1922-2002) about Rav Refoel Soloveitchik (1924-1996), the son of the Brisker Rav. One Erev Sukkos, Rabbi Brim was a bit desperate. He had not yet found a suitable set of Arba Minim (the four species: a Lulav, an Esrog, Hadassim and Aravos). He asked Rav Refoel Soloveitchik that if he finds a better one than the one that he had obtained, if the Rav could sell him the lesser quality one and that he, Rav Chaim Brim, would purchase it at any price.
Rav Soloveitchik answered, “Actually, I do not have a Sukkos set of Arba Minim yet, and I am not as concerned, because if I do not find one, I can always use someone else’s. I am concerned now and dealing with a different set of Arba Minim. Which Arba Minim do I mean? Hashem’s Arba Minim — the Levi, the ger (convert) the yasom (orphan) and the almana. It is Erev Sukkos and many of the yesomim and the almanos do not have what to eat, where to stay, and what to do with themselves. I need to worry about their accommodations and to look out for them. The Arba Minim that you are seeking I can always borrow.”
The story is quite poignant because not only does it emphasize our Torah obligations to yesomim and almanos and geirim, but it also alludes to the fact that they are not on everyone’s radar.
It is well-known that Rav Chaim Pinchos Scheinberg, zt”l did not say any extraneous words on Shabbos. He made one exception. If there was any situation in which an almana needed something, he picked himself up and attended to it, not measuring his words in any form at all. When matters were settled, he went back to his general silence.
Rav Yaakov Chalofsky was very close to Rav Chaim Kanievsky, zt”l and to his saintly wife, Rebbetzen Bas Sheva. Once, Rebbetzen Bas Sheva asked Rabbi Chalofsky to deliver some borsht she had made to a poor almana in the neighborhood. He did so. After he gave her the borsht, she tearfully told him: “I wait for this every day. You have no idea what this means to me — it gives me chizuk, it strengthens me. It shows me that people do care.”
Rebbetzen Rishel Kotler, z”l was the wife of Rav Shneur Kotler and the mother (and mother-in-law)of many of Lakewood’s Roshei Yeshiva. (. Her practice was to call an almana daily and listen to her so that she would have someone to talk with.
It is not just Gedolei Torah who can do this mitzvah — we can all do it and we must do it. So let’s make a list of who we can invite for a Shabbos or Yom Tov meal. It is important to remember that they have extraordinary yichus; they are the daughters of Avrohom Avinu, Yitzchok Avinu and Yaakov Avinu. We will discover that the experience is very rewarding as well.
Practically, this is what can be done:
Show them you are thinking about them.
Call them regularly and take an interest in what they are doing.
Invite them.
Yom Tovs are key -—Help them plan.
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