How many times in our lives do we encounter challenges without losing our temper? Or how many of us can let go of our past and lend support to those who may have wronged us? In Parshat Vayigash, Yosef teaches us an important lesson he learned about letting go realizing Hashem is in charge.

In this week’s parsha, Yosef reveals himself to his brothers and says, “I am Yosef.” His brothers, shocked and probably panicking that Yosef will take revenge, are worried. However, Yosef reassures them not to worry because this is Hashem’s plan. Yosef recognized that “everything is in the hands of the above (Hashem) except for fear of the above (Hashem).”

Some Sages had taught that being angry is idol worship. Why is that so? Because when we believe everything is from Hashem, those people who have harmed us were Hashem’s messengers. While they chose to be the ones to relay Hashem’s message, if it didn’t come from them, Hashem would have sent the message from someone else.

Additionally, Yosef made an effort to get his brothers to perform teshuva in order to increase their merit. Not only did he not harbor resentment, but he also supported his brothers going forward. May we all merit in realizing that everything comes from Hashem and refrain from getting angry. As we acknowledge that Hashem is the source of everything, may we have the wisdom to learn to assist those who have wronged us. Everything is from Hashem!

Shira Sedek is a passionate educator currently working toward a master’s degree at Azrieli Graduate School of Jewish Education and Administration.