Sometimes, we can be so focused on ourselves that we don’t always think about those around us. However, parshat Pinchas is all about acting for others. At the beginning of the parsha, Pinchas kills someone for Hashem’s sake. It is not that he liked killing, but that he felt he needed to kill the person. Not only did Pinchas act zealously, but so did bnot (daughters of) Tzladchad. They went in front of Moshe, Aaron and Bnei Yisrael and spoke in honor of their father who had passed. They did not want his name to be forgotten. It was not just their zealousness that was so profound, but the way they went about fighting for their father.

As little kids, we jumped up and down screaming, whining, kicking and yelling the words, “Please, please, please …” As we got older did that change? Many people continue to yell, whine, complain and hold up signs. Is that what we should be doing? Probably not, because we all must ask ourselves where this has gotten us. All of this brings more yelling, screening and fighting. Bnot Tzelafchad recognized that when you speak and don’t yell, that is when you receive results. The screaming, yelling and things like that seem only to be a buffer. And, we only need solutions…

May we all learn the zealousness and power of kind speech from bnot Tzelafchad and use it in our day-to-day lives.